My approach includes therapeutic storytelling/mind-based interaction, body-based/embodiment exercises, and/or educational-therapeutic touch. The particular combination that we might weave together for sessions is dependent upon what your goals are and our comfort level in the moment.
I have clients that I work with for months before we get to any touch-based work, others who are interested in bodywork as soon as our second session, and yet others who do not need or desire bodywork at all throughout our work together. Regardless of the level of touch involved, our sessions will always be focused on the body and somatic awareness. I will likely frequently ask you to pause and take a breath, to go inside, or to tune in to a part of your body while speaking or moving.
Compassion, dignity, authenticity, and integrity are cornerstones of this work. With these in mind, I reserve the right to refuse sessions to anyone for any reason. If we speak or meet and one or both of us decides we are not a good match, I will happily refer you to a colleague that may be a better fit.
I am unapologetically and radically anti-oppressive, queer- and trans-centered, neuroqueer-normative, consent-based, sex-positive, feminist, trauma-focused, kink-knowledgeable, and in my approach and values. These values are ideals that I continuously strive toward. My sessions are designed to be sacred spaces of authenticity and accountability based upon these ideals. I recognize I may fall short of these ideals and always welcome feedback on how I can do better.
My work is therapeutic and educational, but NOT therapy or counseling. I am NOT a licensed Counselor or Therapist; I am an Educator and Coach. For more information on the distinction, please read my disclaimer.
Who Do I Work With?
I work with people of all genders, sexualities, bodies, experiences, and relationship configurations. Read more...I can work with you one-on-one or as a couple or polycule.
Sessions are in-person or via the internet, and uniquely personalized to your goals and needs. We will use a variety of modalities and tools to provide loving, compassionate support and empathic witnessing. Touch can be involved if that is appropriate for what we are working on together, but it is never a guarantee or requirement.
I find my clients come to me because something needs to change in the way they are relating to themselves, their lover(s), and/or the world. Something is missing that was there before, in the way that wasn’t there before, or they are seeking something more than what they’ve already experienced.
Mostly, something feels off, and my clients are looking for support and guidance to a greater depth of experience and a more integrated version of themselves and their life!
How Do I Work?
My work aims to help guide you toward a more integrated experience with yourself, your relationships, and the world around you. Read more...To do this, my practice centers around embodiment, emotions, empathy, shadow and shame work, body image, self-worth, sexual and relational trauma, boundaries, and the unending quest for integration and authenticity that is part of being alive.
I bring in a number of modalities and approaches to our work together including:
- Grounding and centering techniques.
- Sexological Bodywork techniques such as pleasure mapping, mindful erotic embodiment, scar tissue remediation, and genital de-armouring .
- Breath work.
- Applied PolyVagal Theory and Nervous System re-wiring.
- Somatic/Body awareness.
- Interactive or relational practices.
- Self-pleasure coaching.
- Emotional Awareness & Integration.
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) Perspective.
- Erotic and Relational Neurobiology.
- Embodiment exercises.
- Depth psychology, including Archetypal and mythic approaches to existence.
- Soulwork.
- Mindful awareness and Interpersonal Neurobiology.
- Ritual design.
- Sacred erotic practices and Erotic Alchemy.
- Non-ordinary states of consciousness.
- Psychedelic integration.
- And more. . .
Targeted Coaching Sessions
This approach is best for those who have a specific problem or issue they are struggling with and are looking for support and guidance in achieving the desired change or outcome. Together we engage in a targeted, structured, results-driven series of sessions help to move you toward your goal.
In this approach, we work either once a week or every other week until you are satisfied with the transformation you have experienced. We may or may not continue working together after your initial goal is met.
Ongoing Support Sessions
This option is for those looking to make large systemic changes to their way of being in the world, those who wish to delve deeper into their own patterns of behavior and and their own psyche, or those who wish to go through life with the compassionate support and empathic witnessing of a loving coach who knows you, sees you, and helps you to bring out the best of who you are in your relationships and every day life.
An ongoing support relationship can be achieved through regular weekly, every other week, or once-a-month sessions. The benefits of an ongoing support relationship include the depth of insight that occurs with long-term therapeutic engagement, witnessing and transforming habits and behavior patterns that are not as visible within shorter-term coaching relationships, and more.
Many of my clients come in for targeted coaching and stay for ongoing support, but that is not required to have a powerful, transformative experience of embracing pleasure!
What Are Sessions Like?
The only set structure to our sessions is how we begin. Read more... I like to start every session with an embodiment practice, usually a grounded guided meditation to get us connected to our bodies, the earth, and the universe. We will then discuss what we would like the session to be focused on, if we do not have a focus already based on previous session work.
From there (depending on the needs of the session) we may continue our discussion, move into other embodiment exercises, or engage in educational-therapeutic touch such as relational awareness, cuddling, or bodywork.
I like to go s l o w, engaging in every moment with mindful awareness one breath at a time. So much of contemporary society is about moving fast, instant gratification, multitasking, etc. and transformation does not occur on a timeline.
I work in two-hour sessions or longer.
The reason for this is, I find two-hour sessions allow us to go slower and deeper than traditional “50-minute hour” therapy sessions or 60- or 90-minute bodywork sessions typically do. A two-hour session allows our sessions to flow and delve deeply into the topic, concern, or experience we are focusing on.
These longer sessions allow us to cover multiple topics (usually of increasing depth) within one session, often making connections between behaviors and experiences that would otherwise have remained separate.
If we reach an ending point before the two hours is up or something unexpected comes up that cuts a session short, you will only be charged for the amount of time we were in session, rounded to the nearest quarter of an hour.